How Do You Get That BULLET-PROOF Feeling?

Posted on November 7, 2011 by Merry

Was just on a live call with Todd Falcone interviewing

Ray Higdon – the #1 Earner in his network marketing company.

Just had to share a couple gold nuggets with you . . .

For any who do not know the story of Ray Higdon, he was

very successful in his real estate business
lost it all
was on the verge of bankruptcy
multiple properties going into foreclosure
down to $300 in his bank account
turned it all into now going on a honeymoon in Fiji

WOW – somebody we can all learn a multitude

of things from — what to do AND what not to do . . .

Right?

Todd asked Ray, point blank, how do you go from feeling

bulletproof in your real estate business, to shattered,

and back to feeling bulletproof again.

Where does it come from?

The answer: It comes from who you are surrounding

yourself with and who you let into your psyche.

In today’s world of instant gratification, everybody is

looking for the magic potion – or pill – or button – or trick.

Everybody wants to hear — what was it — what was the

magic one-liner Ray used to be an overnight success????

Don’t let dull people, who you don’t want to be

thinking like or have the same results as,

set up camp in the real estate of your mind.

Who are you letting into your mind?

I know you have heard this before. If you are not getting

the results at whatever it is you are looking to achieve,

step back and ask yourself:

Who am I letting take up camp in the expensive

property of my mind?

Is whatever the last thing is on the nightly news what you

want your mind to mull over and think about all night?

When someone makes fun of you — calls you out as crazy

– for doing something you believe in –

who do you listen to?

Surround yourself with people and minds that will help you

to build the skills and thinking that will take you forward

. . . > > > INTO your goals.

A few of the techniques,

if that is what you are looking for, Ray gave:

Take a successful person out to coffee or lunch
Read and study people you believe to be successful
Listen to audios – programing the software of your mind
Remember you don’t have to absorb everyone’s opinion

Start today — right now — if you are not getting the

results you want in getting toward your goals –

ask yourself:

Am I setting up an environment to program my software to

think and act in a manner to get me into my goals?

Action Step: Find 3 people in your local area you would

like to take to coffee and ask questions. Then follow up.

Let me know how it is going . . . Here is to your BEST!

I Will Never Believe In Self Improvement Again!

Posted on October 31, 2011 by Merry

Whew!! Bold statement you say? Against Self-Improvement??!!?

For years I have been reading and applying “self improvement” books, audios, whatever I came across that I thought would make me “better”. You too?

STOP IT!! You are already good enough!

When people are searching … searching … searching … it implies that they believe they are flawed. Something is missing. The search will never end with that belief.

Continually searching for something to make you better implies that you are lacking. Why are you telling your friends, acquaintances, co-workers, neighbors, world, universe that you come from a place of lacking?

You are already all you need to be.

This may be hard to swallow — there is no magic button or book or CD out there. Looking outside yourself will only keep you on the same track you have been on — and for how long? How are you doing so far?

The answer lies in the decision (oops – not now you say — I have already heard this crap). Stay with me here.

No matter what it is you are trying to accomplish. You already have the resources available within yourself to be happy and successful.

I know it is hard to wrap you head around this when struggling to pay bills or working at a job you can’t stand.

Improving yourself would be like trying to improve on the beauty of a sunrise.

As you go through this day, make the decision (yep – I said DECISION) that YOU are all you need to be to accomplish your best today.

When we start realizing that we are enough — and we realize that we do have something to give in life — then and only then can we truly believe, experience and understand the true happiness and success is in giving of ourselves.

Happiness is a choice. Success is a belief.

Make the decision today you are happy because you are successful in YOUR life.

Now go out there and make it an awesome day for someone else!

How Do I Get More People To See My Content Online?

Posted on September 26, 2011 by Merry

When you are just starting out, it is very easy to get discouraged and feel that nobody is looking at your stuff. And – I know – every Tom, Dick and Harry has their ideas of what you should do.

Why do the big guys – and ladies – get all the views? Hmmm. Let’s look at a couple of things:

1) The “gurus” have been at it longer and just have more content out there

2) They KNOW they are “THE Dude”

Circumstances are as circumstances are. That is all. There are things out there you can do nothing about.

Someone out on the internet with consistent content for a longer period of time than you is something you cannot go back and change. Now get over it.

You can, however, do something today! Start consistently putting out your content. Google likes consistency. Set a schedule, line it out on a calendar, and stick to it.

If your schedule does not allow you time on a certain day to post on your blog, go ahead and prepare your content, then use WordPress Editorial Calendar to keep you on task.

Just think! Daily writing – and publishing – a piece of content for 90 days puts 90 pieces of your content out on the internet. How many do you have today?

Now you start to stretch and multiply those pieces of content. Easy Peasy.

Once the content is originally written, you can then extend the life of the piece by refreshing it into other forms such as video, audio, blog post, twitter messages, etc. More on that later.

Now on to KNOWING you are THE DUDE!

Mindset comes before motivation in more than the dictionary.

What is your mission?

What is your cause?

Why are you even out there on the internet?

Who are you looking to help – and what are you able to help them with?

If you don’t know – convey that – send out the energy from the tips of your fingers in every word – your audience cannot possibly relate, respond, or will ever even look for you.

Remember, people don’t go looking for you because you have something to say.

People go looking for information – for answers to their questions.

Do you KNOW in your gut – down in the pit of your stomach – you have something that can release others from the shackles holding them hostage?

What kept you up at night, wondering how to solve your problem, crying when nobody else was looking (you hoped), that lead you to the answers you feel the need to share?

You HAVE to know you are THE DUDE with the answers!

Now! Go out there with your 90 Day Plan — Knowing your target audience is looking for your answers.

And on a consistent action plan, attract your target market and give them the answers they are looking for.

I’ve whopped you kinda hard this time. I hope you know that is how much I care.

I am here to help. Just call or drop me a line.

My KICK in the … Oh Yeah — Brainstorming

Posted on September 25, 2011 by Merry

I called one of my mentors last week, Cathie Heath. I seemed to be stuck after dealing with a bit of surgery and just needed to brainstorm — called a kick in the butt.

I went away from the call with some specific steps I committed to do. One of the actions is to write one piece of content each day. Today is Day 2. Thank you Cathie!

As I was researching information this morning to write on, I came across an interview of Steven Pressfield by Ishita Gupta on Amazon. I wanted to share a piece of the interview that related to the information Cathie was teaching me.

In the interview Steve Pressfield stated he had received an email from someone that read, “Help, I’m stuck.” Ishita asked him what he told him. Here is his answer:

“Steven Pressfield: One of the first things I told him to do was to banish the self-censor. I could tell he was frozen, worrying, “Is this going to be good? Is this going to be perfect? So I told him, “Take the next five days and write for two hours everyday. I don’t care what else is in your life–banish it. When you write for those two hours, start on minute one and don’t think for one second all the way through until minute 120. Just write, don’t self censor. Don’t do anything.” That really seemed to get him moving and gave him permission to not be paralyzed with seeking perfection.”

For any of you feeling paralyzed, I understand. As I jump back in the game, I want perfection. Cathie essentially gave me the permission to not be perfect — just get into action. Let your thoughts (content) bottled up inside you flow. You may not know what it is — until you start writing, talking on camera, visiting at the party with friends on facebook, or whatever your 90 Day Plan includes.

Steven Pressfield told his student to banish the self-censor. We are our own worst critic most times. We get stuck due to our own self doubt. My sights had been set so high for myself, I didn’t believe I could make it happen. I couldn’t “Begin with the end in mind” as Steven Covey and Cathie reminded me. I had lost my picture.

So — back to you — Just do it! Once you start, just don’t quit. By that I mean, if you have 20 minutes, an hour, or two hours as Seven Pressfield gave his student, just start. Put up a timer, start on minute one and quit at the end of your time allotted. It doesn’t matter what you write. Just start. The rest will take care of itself.

We worry so much about having all the technicalities just so.

Mindset comes before motivation in more than the dictionary.

If you have read this far, you have just experienced my writing for my allotted time on – drum roll — Day 2!

Are You Feeling Chased By the Internet?

Posted on September 24, 2011 by Merry

Ever feel like you are being chased around the internet, looking at this,looking at that, and where has the time gone?

Question: Who is doing the chasing? Are you ready to look at yourself? Really — take a look only in you are ready.

I couldn’t help but think about bright shiny objects. Then I thought — Oooohhh is this me?

Then I thought — Am I doing the chasing — or am I placing myself in a position with value to be chased?

Let me know what you think.

If it WAS you – or someone you knew – that was doing the chasing, what changed?

Taking a Step Back — Good? Bad?

Posted on July 16, 2011 by Merry

Is taking a step back or away a good thing or a bad thing? You tell me . . .

Do you ever feel the frustration of one step forward and two steps back?

I have learned (and been reminded) stepping back — be it in frustration — or to get a better look — from something doesn’t always mean it has to lead to frustration.

Life has dealt me a time to step back, look deeper inside myself and step back up to the plate. Now with a whole new perspective.

One of my mentors told me last night:
When you start being who you were born to be, resistance naturally comes in your path.

Ever feel your loved ones try to distract you, road blocks pop up out of nowhere or you get sick? Resistanace, resistance, resistance . . . .

So what do we do when that happens?
Most people get frustrated and quit.
I challenge you to use that resistance to build muscle.

If it has taken you this long — no matter your age — to start becoming who you were born to be, don’t you think there has been a bit of natural resistance in your life???

Step back up to the plate . . .

Reframe your view on life . . .

Leave your thoughts and comments . . .

I am really interested in your thoughts and feelings. I am here if you need me . . .

What’s In The Power of YOUR Dream?

Posted on March 26, 2011 by Merry

I dedicate this post to The Great Edward Elliott and his wife Julie and to Big Dog Paul Gaume and his wife Linda. Truly inspirational people.

Do you have a 100 year vision? Edward and Julie Elliott and Paul and Linda Gaume do.

This is a very uncomfortable question for some. Due to today’s economy many can’t see a future.

Dreams have been crushed.

Oh, I’m too old, young, broke, stupid, sick and tired, whatever, to think about those things.

All excuses. All in your mind!

We become what we focus on and think about. Period.

If this message gives you goose bumps, or at least intrigues you to follow further, snoop around my site a bit more. Check out my friends like Edward, Julie, Paul and Linda … Here.

I’m here if you need me,

It’sMerryHere@gmail.com

623.541.3431

Rock What You Got

Posted on March 13, 2011 by Merry

Feeling beaten down? Maybe lost your “Rock and Roll” a bit?

You’ve got to see this:

We’re made to ROCK — so STAND UP TALL!!

ROCK what you GOT!

To discuss further how YOU can ROCK what you GOT,

fill in your name and email right over >>>> there.

I will be in touch . . . . Let’s ROCK!