How Do You Get That BULLET-PROOF Feeling?

Posted on November 7, 2011 by Merry

Was just on a live call with Todd Falcone interviewing

Ray Higdon – the #1 Earner in his network marketing company.

Just had to share a couple gold nuggets with you . . .

For any who do not know the story of Ray Higdon, he was

very successful in his real estate business
lost it all
was on the verge of bankruptcy
multiple properties going into foreclosure
down to $300 in his bank account
turned it all into now going on a honeymoon in Fiji

WOW – somebody we can all learn a multitude

of things from — what to do AND what not to do . . .

Right?

Todd asked Ray, point blank, how do you go from feeling

bulletproof in your real estate business, to shattered,

and back to feeling bulletproof again.

Where does it come from?

The answer: It comes from who you are surrounding

yourself with and who you let into your psyche.

In today’s world of instant gratification, everybody is

looking for the magic potion – or pill – or button – or trick.

Everybody wants to hear — what was it — what was the

magic one-liner Ray used to be an overnight success????

Don’t let dull people, who you don’t want to be

thinking like or have the same results as,

set up camp in the real estate of your mind.

Who are you letting into your mind?

I know you have heard this before. If you are not getting

the results at whatever it is you are looking to achieve,

step back and ask yourself:

Who am I letting take up camp in the expensive

property of my mind?

Is whatever the last thing is on the nightly news what you

want your mind to mull over and think about all night?

When someone makes fun of you — calls you out as crazy

– for doing something you believe in –

who do you listen to?

Surround yourself with people and minds that will help you

to build the skills and thinking that will take you forward

. . . > > > INTO your goals.

A few of the techniques,

if that is what you are looking for, Ray gave:

Take a successful person out to coffee or lunch
Read and study people you believe to be successful
Listen to audios – programing the software of your mind
Remember you don’t have to absorb everyone’s opinion

Start today — right now — if you are not getting the

results you want in getting toward your goals –

ask yourself:

Am I setting up an environment to program my software to

think and act in a manner to get me into my goals?

Action Step: Find 3 people in your local area you would

like to take to coffee and ask questions. Then follow up.

Let me know how it is going . . . Here is to your BEST!

I Will Never Believe In Self Improvement Again!

Posted on October 31, 2011 by Merry

Whew!! Bold statement you say? Against Self-Improvement??!!?

For years I have been reading and applying “self improvement” books, audios, whatever I came across that I thought would make me “better”. You too?

STOP IT!! You are already good enough!

When people are searching … searching … searching … it implies that they believe they are flawed. Something is missing. The search will never end with that belief.

Continually searching for something to make you better implies that you are lacking. Why are you telling your friends, acquaintances, co-workers, neighbors, world, universe that you come from a place of lacking?

You are already all you need to be.

This may be hard to swallow — there is no magic button or book or CD out there. Looking outside yourself will only keep you on the same track you have been on — and for how long? How are you doing so far?

The answer lies in the decision (oops – not now you say — I have already heard this crap). Stay with me here.

No matter what it is you are trying to accomplish. You already have the resources available within yourself to be happy and successful.

I know it is hard to wrap you head around this when struggling to pay bills or working at a job you can’t stand.

Improving yourself would be like trying to improve on the beauty of a sunrise.

As you go through this day, make the decision (yep – I said DECISION) that YOU are all you need to be to accomplish your best today.

When we start realizing that we are enough — and we realize that we do have something to give in life — then and only then can we truly believe, experience and understand the true happiness and success is in giving of ourselves.

Happiness is a choice. Success is a belief.

Make the decision today you are happy because you are successful in YOUR life.

Now go out there and make it an awesome day for someone else!

How Do I Get More People To See My Content Online?

Posted on September 26, 2011 by Merry

When you are just starting out, it is very easy to get discouraged and feel that nobody is looking at your stuff. And – I know – every Tom, Dick and Harry has their ideas of what you should do.

Why do the big guys – and ladies – get all the views? Hmmm. Let’s look at a couple of things:

1) The “gurus” have been at it longer and just have more content out there

2) They KNOW they are “THE Dude”

Circumstances are as circumstances are. That is all. There are things out there you can do nothing about.

Someone out on the internet with consistent content for a longer period of time than you is something you cannot go back and change. Now get over it.

You can, however, do something today! Start consistently putting out your content. Google likes consistency. Set a schedule, line it out on a calendar, and stick to it.

If your schedule does not allow you time on a certain day to post on your blog, go ahead and prepare your content, then use WordPress Editorial Calendar to keep you on task.

Just think! Daily writing – and publishing – a piece of content for 90 days puts 90 pieces of your content out on the internet. How many do you have today?

Now you start to stretch and multiply those pieces of content. Easy Peasy.

Once the content is originally written, you can then extend the life of the piece by refreshing it into other forms such as video, audio, blog post, twitter messages, etc. More on that later.

Now on to KNOWING you are THE DUDE!

Mindset comes before motivation in more than the dictionary.

What is your mission?

What is your cause?

Why are you even out there on the internet?

Who are you looking to help – and what are you able to help them with?

If you don’t know – convey that – send out the energy from the tips of your fingers in every word – your audience cannot possibly relate, respond, or will ever even look for you.

Remember, people don’t go looking for you because you have something to say.

People go looking for information – for answers to their questions.

Do you KNOW in your gut – down in the pit of your stomach – you have something that can release others from the shackles holding them hostage?

What kept you up at night, wondering how to solve your problem, crying when nobody else was looking (you hoped), that lead you to the answers you feel the need to share?

You HAVE to know you are THE DUDE with the answers!

Now! Go out there with your 90 Day Plan — Knowing your target audience is looking for your answers.

And on a consistent action plan, attract your target market and give them the answers they are looking for.

I’ve whopped you kinda hard this time. I hope you know that is how much I care.

I am here to help. Just call or drop me a line.

Are You Feeling Chased By the Internet?

Posted on September 24, 2011 by Merry

Ever feel like you are being chased around the internet, looking at this,looking at that, and where has the time gone?

Question: Who is doing the chasing? Are you ready to look at yourself? Really — take a look only in you are ready.

I couldn’t help but think about bright shiny objects. Then I thought — Oooohhh is this me?

Then I thought — Am I doing the chasing — or am I placing myself in a position with value to be chased?

Let me know what you think.

If it WAS you – or someone you knew – that was doing the chasing, what changed?

What’s In The Power of YOUR Dream?

Posted on March 26, 2011 by Merry

I dedicate this post to The Great Edward Elliott and his wife Julie and to Big Dog Paul Gaume and his wife Linda. Truly inspirational people.

Do you have a 100 year vision? Edward and Julie Elliott and Paul and Linda Gaume do.

This is a very uncomfortable question for some. Due to today’s economy many can’t see a future.

Dreams have been crushed.

Oh, I’m too old, young, broke, stupid, sick and tired, whatever, to think about those things.

All excuses. All in your mind!

We become what we focus on and think about. Period.

If this message gives you goose bumps, or at least intrigues you to follow further, snoop around my site a bit more. Check out my friends like Edward, Julie, Paul and Linda … Here.

I’m here if you need me,

It’sMerryHere@gmail.com

623.541.3431

Rock What You Got

Posted on March 13, 2011 by Merry

Feeling beaten down? Maybe lost your “Rock and Roll” a bit?

You’ve got to see this:

We’re made to ROCK — so STAND UP TALL!!

ROCK what you GOT!

To discuss further how YOU can ROCK what you GOT,

fill in your name and email right over >>>> there.

I will be in touch . . . . Let’s ROCK!

If You Want To Be The Boss, Don’t Act Like The Secretary

Posted on February 19, 2011 by Merry

Attention WOMEN: (Shh – This applies to men also.) The role you play with others can determine your future success, from inside the home to inside the boardroom. The tone you set will determine how you are perceived as a leader.

Research was conducted at Georgetown University’s McDonough School of Business on the roles women assume in small group settings. The result? Women often, almost five times more often than men, fell into the “compiler” role.

The compiler was defined as the person responsible for assembling others’ work into the final deliverable, whose tasks may include formatting, writing, or editing.

Men, on the other hand, reported playing the “thought leader” role twice as often as women.

The research could not identify the motivating factor to explain the compiler phenomenon. It was noted, however, more than two-thirds of both men and women chose their roles based on where they thought they could add the most value.

Focus groups and executive interviews imply that women are more detail oriented, conscientious and really try to understand the needs of the client.

Yeah!!! Jump up and down and shout “YES! YES! YES!” to the world women . . .

That is really good news. No matter what you are looking to take charge of, from your own household to your multi-million dollar company, understanding the needs of the client – your customer – internal or external – is the most important, basic task you can perform. ALL others stem off of that concept.

Re-read the last paragraph . . .

Beware of the player that ACTs like they have the game under control. Can they only play one role in a team environment?

Many ACT like they want to be on fire and help the world, but secretly, they can’t even afford a self-image that RECEIVES other people. – Joe Schroeder

They have ingested the beliefs of another man’s opinion of them. From the time they were little – “You aren’t good enough” – “You are stupid” – “You don’t count” – “You aren’t pretty”.

In the end, what a person has come to believe is their reality; it not even be close to the real deal.

Your reality is how you FEEL.

Did you get up this morning BELIEVING and FEELING like you were the Boss or the Secretary? Your job title does not define you. You do not need to be validated by every Tom, Dick and Harry to show credence that you can be a leader.

Only you can take on the role of Boss – only you can take on the role of “Thought Leader” in your environment. Vote yourself IN. Go ahead. You know you already have my vote.

Now go out and be the thought leader that allows YOU to make an amazing day for someone else.

For additional tips and resources to share with others, put your name and email in the box on the right. I promise I won’t spam you. I will send you occasional emails when I find great stuff to share with others.

Why AM I Such A Dork?

Posted on February 18, 2011 by Merry

Whoah!!!! What makes you think you are a dork?
If I called you a dork you would more than punch me through the wall!

Watch this video .. I know .. just go ahead .. take a peek .. and listen …

WE are the only ones that can make up our minds. We vote ourselves in or out of the “dork club”.

What we speak about in private ….. is what we will reveal in public. Hm…. Think about that (pause)

If we are telling ourselves – remember we have two ears and one mouth for a reason — If we are telling ourselves things about ourselves — we will come to reveal those things in public to others.

Go ahead poke around my site. Don’t forget to put in your name and email for more Great Tidbits!

Is Success Measured by the Amount of Money You Make?

Posted on February 11, 2011 by Merry

Many of us feel we have not been “successful” until we have amassed a pile of money. That may be true for some. No judgment. For many of us more money, financial stability, is our goal.

Maya Angelou writes, “You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you.”

Today’s economy is full of people out to make money. They hurry to be the first and the loudest to shove something in front of us and do their best to get us to buy. I ask you: How’s that working for you?
When money is the goal, there is no concern about how it is obtained. A person can be a robber, thief, extortionist, pick-pocket, and make a pile of money. Most of us do not want to go about paying for our lifestyle in that manner – so let’s take a little different look.

Follow me here with a little bit of mind shift. Let’s take our sights off the pile of money (dirty green pieces of paper) and look at what “success” really looks like in our life. What do you want to be remembered by? What would you imagine your last words to be before your last breathe? What do you want to be said about you at your memorial service? If you were to receive an award, what would that award be for?

This is what Maya Angelou is talking about. Finding that unique place inside you that is churning for a way out. Something you would love to do but not given yourself permission to explore. Perhaps you think you might fall on your face in front of people you care about. Perhaps you think people will laugh and scoff at you – think you crazy – all you friends would go away.

Now think – WHAT IF??? . . . Of course you are not accomplished at it to start. None of us are! You haven’t given yourself time. No one is a real “over-night” success.

Success has other measurements including accomplishing something you would love to do. When you find a way to become accomplished at what you love to do, share from your heart with others, and find those looking for you – KA BAM!!! They think you are successful. . . . . . Question: What do you think?